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#035: Making Good-for-All Decisions

Have you ever wanted to make a “selfish” decision but then considered the guilt that would likely follow, and so you made a different choice instead?  

Most of us grew up being instilled with the matra of “put others first.” “Don’t be selfish.” “Think of others before yourself.” 

Sounds nice and noble, right? But the “me last” formula is a recipe for keeping you stuck, run ragged, and being an enabler of the weaknesses of others. You — and everyone around you — will be better off when you put yourself first.

Yeah, I know this is going to rub a lot of you the wrong way. You don’t have to believe me. But I dare you to give this a try.

The next time you have a decision to make, do an ecology check. It’s an NLP concept that’s based on a sort of trickle-down effect. First you, then those close to you and/or the situation, and finally the broader community. The idea is to make choices that are good for you, good for others, and good for the world. But it all starts with you. 

Here’s how the ecology check works. The next time you have a decision to make, ask yourself:

  1. “Is this good for me?” If the answer is no, stop there. Your decision should be no. If the answer is yes, go on to question two.
  2. “Is this good for the people directly involved and for the people closest to me?” This could involve your clients if it’s a business decision, your immediate family, etc. If the answer is no, your decision should be no. If the answer is yes, go on to question three.
  3. “Is this good for the greater community?” If yes, full steam ahead! It’s a win-win-win.

Caution: Be careful about assuming a decision will be “bad” for someone just because they may not like it at first. Look at the long-term big picture. Your kids might not like having to pack their own lunch, but it might be what’s best for them in the long run. 

Your happiness matters. What’s good for you will, in the long run, be what’s best for those closest to you and for your broader community.   


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    Episode Transcript

    Brenda:  Hey there. Welcome to Episode 35 of the Mind Revolution Podcast. I am your host, Brenda Terry. A big, warm thank you to you for tuning in today. And my wish for you, as always, is that wherever you are and whatever you’re doing, that life is so good that you’re walking around with a big, beautiful grin on your face, that you’re feeling good, that things are looking good, that all the data around you is letting you know that, hey, you are on the path. You’re on your way, and you’re doing all the things that are necessary for you to get to that next level.

    Because that next level is what we’re all here to do. I believe that. I think that wherever we are, it doesn’t really matter… I talk to people who are growing from a place of really not having a lot and having a lot of challenges, to people who are now well on their way, have arrived and have developed companies and are now living in relationships that feel really good to them, and they have pretty much all the things that they thought they wanted. All those things are working out. And yet they’re still on that path and on that journey.

    We’re all in it together. If you’re in here listening to me, then we’re in that journey together, and that feels so good to me. It really does.

    So welcome, and today we’re going to talk about something that can be a life changer. It was for me. Because we all make decisions. We all have to make decisions. We’re deciding, moment to moment, when we’re going to do, whether it’s going to be go left or go right or go forward or go backwards, whether it means we’re going to have coffee in the morning or have tea in the morning or have breakfast or skip breakfast, whether it means we’re going to have that meeting at the office or if it means we’re going to have a conversation with our partner, what we’re going to wear, what we’re going to do…

    All of these things are decisions.

    And so I work with people who come to me because they want to start making different types of decisions. They come to me because they’re doing the work to change their lives in a big way.

    And we can all do this work. We can do work a little at a time and begin to shift focus and start looking more at the things we want to achieve instead of the things that we’re trying to get away from. We can do that gently. It can be a gentle process, and chances are that that’s going to take a little bit longer. And so my clients come in to my life and into my office in order to do this faster. And they want to do it quickly, and a lot of them have big goals that they want to achieve, and they’re in that space where they’re just going for it.

    So here’s what happens, though, when we make decisions. We have been conditioned to make decisions in a certain way. I can safely say that out of my entire experience with client work, with my family, with my friends, with myself, there’s always this element in there. And at some point, we can move past this — which I’m hoping this episode is going to help you do…

    What I’m referring to specifically is how we arrive at making decisions when those decisions involve others, which is usually how decisions come about.

    Every decision that we make for ourselves is going to somehow affect somebody else. That’s usually how it works. We’re not living on an island. We’re not all in a bubble. There are people in our lives, and those decisions that we make for ourselves usually have an effect on some other person — whether it’s our children, whether it’s our spouse, whether it’s our business, our clients — you name it. Extended family, community, environment, the planet, all the way home.

    And so what this episode is about is this little dynamic that often comes and it’s imbued, it’s embedded in this space where we make decisions. That is guilt.

    That guilt that comes over us sometimes when we know we have to make a decision, and at the core, we really want to please others. And the last thing we want to do is disappoint them.

    So then we do things that sometimes don’t feel good. We’ll make decisions where, what other people are going to take from this decision is more important and more powerful than what’s going to happen to us and what we’re going to have to go through.

    It’s things like saying yes to activities that we don’t really want to engage in, but we know that when we say no, we’re going to feel so bad about it. So we instead say yes and do it and then feel bad about doing it.

    It’s things like doing some work for somebody that maybe is not our ideal client, but we work with them for a while, and it’s just hard to say no to them because they’ve been our client. So we go ahead and work with them and, as a result, we just simply do not feel good.

    And maybe because we don’t feel good, the end result, the product, the thing that we deliver, isn’t good either. We’re not happy about the quality that we’re delivering.

    And it also happens when we have engagements and we’re like, “You know, I really don’t want to do that, but I should.”

    Whenever you say “should,” by the way, that’s always like a stop sign to me. The word “should” is always about stopping and checking in and then seeing where we’re at. “Should,” “I have to” — those are called modal operators of necessity. In NLP, when we have those, we know that there is some sort of disempowering behavior that could very well be happening in the environment in the moment. Stuff like that.

    There’s the other side of this when we make decisions. We’re making decisions as a result of gaining instant gratification, where we’re looking at something, and we are posed with having to make a choice, and we have a long-term goal, and the choices between honoring the long-term goal versus having the short-term pleasure.

    I have a client — and not just one, by the way, several — who are getting back into their health. They really are focusing part of the breakthrough process, regardless of what we’re working on, at the end of the day, it always comes back to health and us taking care of ourselves.

    I have clients — and I have done this before too, by the way. I’m in there right always with them — where maybe it’s going to be the food choices that they’re making. Maybe there’s dinner, and the food choice is going to be between engaging in activity around our food that’s going to be healthy and beneficial for us. And so maybe that is I’m going to say yes to this food that I’ve decided is going to help me achieve my long-term goal, and so therefore, I’m going to really practice discipline in this decision. And then I’m going to go ahead and do that instead of going to this lower bar.

    I call it a “lower bar.” It’s just more compelling. It’s easy to get in there. It doesn’t require a lot of thought because it’s so visually compelling. It reminds you of something that you had. You think it’s going to feel really good when you have it, and then you eat it, and then you don’t feel good. The benefit of having that experience and choosing something that doesn’t feel good at the end of making the decision by maybe tastes good as you’re having the experience, is that even the tasting part of it doesn’t last that long. But it is more compelling in the moment to have that instant gratification versus having the discipline to say no to something so that you can say yes to you. And that’s what all of this is about.

    All of my clients know that when we start working together, we all get around to nutrition at some point, because feeling good becomes important, and what we put in our bodies is one of those things that really helps with that.

    And I’m all about having gustatory experiences as well. So there’s sometimes when I’m just going to go sit there and enjoy what’s on my plate.

    Recently I had an experience where there were lemon bars. I love lemon bars. I don’t have them — a lot of sugar — but I love the sugar and the tanginess together. So guess what? It was lemon bar night, and it was delicious. And the very next day, I just had to get back to self. But I made that conscious decision. And I’m not saying that I’m making resourceful decisions 24/7, but I can say that I can make resourceful decisions maybe about 90% of the time, which I’m comfortable with. That works for me.

    To some people, they have to make really resourceful decisions a lot of the times at first, like 100% of the time, until they get the neurology, and then they can begin to deviate a little bit, knowing that they have established the neurology for the good feeling and good-for-you, long-term decisions.

    So that’s two ways to look at decisions.

    And so I’ve had clients who tell me, “How do you get to a place where you’re mostly generally happy and you look like you’re happy and you sound like you’re happy?” And people tell me that I’m glowy. And I am. I am, I am, I am.

    And I am only because — I felt like Popeye when I said that. I am what I am only because I’ve worked with this tool that I’m going to share with you today, and that is asking yourself really simple questions.

    When arriving at decision that create some sort of emotional response inside that may or may not feel so good… So typically, it’s going to be a conflict inside where you get the question or the decision in front of you, and inside you get a kinesthetic that doesn’t feel entirely good. Not exactly good. If it feels really good, then usually that’s going to be a yes. But if it feels good and there’s a “but” immediately after…

    Like, “It feels good, but I shouldn’t do this.” “It feels good but…I said I wasn’t going to do this anymore.” “It feels good, but I really don’t want to.”

    All of that stuff is when you want to check in, when you get those feelings inside.

    And if you ask these questions and you get a yes to all of them, if you can make it a rule that that’s the only time you’re going to proceed, then I promise you that your life is going to change, and it’s going to change for the better.

    I do this with my clients. This is one of the tasks that they get. And usually, when they honor the task, their life changes very quickly. They, all of a sudden, realize that saying yes to themselves is the most important thing that they can do for their families, for their environment, for those businesses — for everything. When they can say yes to themselves from a long-term position, meaning the yes is going to benefit them longer term, then everybody is going to benefit.

    And this goes bigger than just the decision and what happens as a result of the decision. But it also applies to the projection, because the majority of the people that come to me, a lot of us were conditioned to put ourselves anything other than first.

    So if we’re second on the totem pole, then we are really ahead of the game when it comes to prioritizing self over others.

    But the majority of us have been conditioned to put ourselves last. And sometimes we find some value in that. We think that that’s meaningful. We think that in putting ourselves not first, that we’re actually serving in some way, that we’re taking care of other people, that we’re loving them, that we’re serving.

    I’m here to tell you that, sure, but at your expense.

    And when you’re serving at your expense, it means that you are not firing on all cylinders. It means that you’re not putting the best of yourself out there, because you’re not giving it to yourself. And I’m speaking to you strictly from the point of view of perception is projection in NLP and saying that what we are inside to ourselves… So not even the things that we show to the world.

    How we define who we are inside is what we’re projecting on the outside.

    So if you are inside feeling that you are not number one, then on the outside, you cannot give true, quality service to others. Impossible. It’s impossible, because you don’t know how to give quality service to you.

    Again, you don’t have to agree with me here. You really don’t. I’ve gotten emails from people who don’t agree with me. I respect that. I absolutely do. All I’m saying is try it. And then when you try it for a little while, then see what happens. And see what happens to the quality of your life in general, because this is all about practice. This is about doing things over and over again, creating neurology around it, wire and fire the new pattern so that the other pattern goes away. And then you begin to live life at a different level. That’s what this is again.

    It’s like when people come to make, and they want to make more money. They think it’s about the money.

    And then they come in do the work, and they realize that, no, it’s not about the money. It’s about the achievement of it. And the resources that they have to acquire, how they have to grow, all the transformation that has to happen in order for them to get to that level of achieving that money, whether they’re going from earning five figures to six to seven to eight, really, the gift is the process of the learning how to get there.

    And then when you get there, then you realize, oh my gosh, I have so much more power than I thought. And that’s what this process is about.

    So in NLP, we call this the ecology check. This is an ecology check. And doing things from ecology simply means just three things. And when you do these three things and you answer these three questions, then we can assume that the other two questions are going to be answered in the same way. And here they are.

    So if you could make a promise to yourself that just a week, even if you do this for just one week… And it’s hard. This is the hardest thing from my clients when it comes to decision making. We have talked about what I call “reframe hell,” which is when they have to learn to shift their thinking and shift their focus. And that’s something that they have to do on their own with my support, but they have to do it. I can’t be at home, moment to moment, reminding them to shift their focus. They have to learn to shift the focus themselves.

    Well, when it comes to decisions, this is the task. And it is hard, because then they bump against all the things, all the beliefs that are keeping them from living in the space of congruency. And congruency simply means “I’m feeling good. What I’m doing and what I’m wanting align.” And the results that are happening are also aligned. So everything in one straight line. There’s no deviation. There’s no separation from the desire and the result. It all connects.

    It’s simply asking yourself these questions. Whenever something comes up for you and you get that kinesthetic inside that doesn’t quite feel good, that maybe a little bit feels good, but then a part of it feels conflicted, so you’re conflicted. That’s essentially what’s happening. There’s a conflict inside.

    And usually this happens when the decision that we’re faced with is kind of pushing against a boundary. It’s pushing against a boundary, a belief, a value, a desire, a goal.

    So when you ask yourself these three questions, when you get the yes, then you know that you are making a decision that’s going to be for your benefit. And as a result, it’s going to be for the benefit of everybody else that’s involved.

    And if you get a no to any of them and you honor that ‘no,’ and you say, “This is not the decision that I can say yes to. I’m going to do something else instead,” that’s going to really answer the yes to all those questions.

    And then you move on and do that. If you do that for just a week, your life is going to begin to look different.

    Like I said, this is the hardest thing to do for my clients when it comes to decision making, because it bumps against those boundaries, those values and beliefs. And the result of that is that they’re going to be able to identify, once they do this tasking and they do it consistently and they do it with every decision, even if it’s just for a little while, they’ll begin to identify the limiting beliefs that they’re bumping against, that are hiding underneath the surface.

    And here are the questions for you, because I want this for you too.

    So whenever you are bumping against this decision that you have to make, you want to ask yourself three things.

    And first question is, “Is this good for me?”

    And if you get a solid yes, then you can move on and ask the next question. If you get a no, then honor yourself by saying no to the thing that’s in front of you.

    So you get the yes, and then you ask the second question. “Is it good for those people immediately involved?”

    And sometimes that means our family, that this decision is going to affect our home life. So whether it’s a partner or children or whoever else lives at home, how is this going to benefit? Is this going to be good for them ultimately?

    By me knowing that it’s good for me, is this now going to be good for them? Good.

    Is it going to be good for a client if it’s a client relationship, if it’s a client engagement? They’re directly involved. If the answer yes, that means that you already have a win-win scenario. Win, because it’s good are you. Win, because it’s good for that immediate environment, the people directly involved.

    And then the third question. “Is this going to be good for my extended environment?”

    That could mean your friends, extended family that you have a connection with and to, clients, your work space.

    And if you get a yes to all three things, then you can go ahead and partake.

    If any of those are a no, then it means that’s a no. The neurology is letting you know this is not going to be good for us long-term. This is really not going to help us because at the end of the day, however we make decisions is going to affect our entire environment.

    And if you get three yeses, meaning, yes, it’s good for me; yes, it’s good for my immediate environment and those people directly involved; and yes, it’s going to be good for my extended environment, then by then, you know that it’s going to be good for your community, because you are essentially contributing. Even if it means you’re going to feel good. If you’re feeling good, are you not then in a better disposition when you’re dealing with others?

    So, yes, that would be, for me, a yes to community.

    And then, as a result of feeling good, think about paying things forward. Is it not good for the overall planet? And that’s what we in NLP call the ecology check.

    And this is how I was trained to make decisions as a trainer. I gave a talk recently, and one of the things that I touched on was how, when I first learned about NLP, I understood it to be something that could be used for manipulation and manipulating people. And I was really concerned about that, because I knew that I was already very persuasive because I had been in sales for so long. So I wanted to be someone who brought more to an experience, not when in there and used whatever I was learning to take away from people and situations and places and things. I wanted to contribute. I wanted to give.

    And then I learned this. And when I learned the ecology check, I understood that this concept, along with understanding that perception is projection, meaning that whatever I am engaging in is a mirror for me — whatever I’m seeing, whatever I’m doing. It’s all unconscious material. If I’m causing some sort of harm to another human being, essentially I’m doing it to myself, and I’m going to get the essence of that experience back.

    So this kept that notion of manipulation way out of the awareness because now I’m operating from integrity all of the time. And it really truly is. When I say “all the time,” I want to say the vast majority of the time, because there’s still me. There’s me and me taking care of me and me making choices for me that sometimes are unresourceful. I’m human. So living 100% congruently, I feel that, for me, that is not sustainable, because I’m engaging with people, I’m doing things. If I’m at an event and I’m going to have the chocolate and the wine and the pastry and the lemon bar, that’s not 100% congruency, maybe. But maybe it is. That’s for me to determine and for you to determine on your side, whether whatever it is that you’re engaging in is really congruent.

    And in learning this tool, if you just simply ask yourself, “Is it good for me? Is it good for the people directly involved?” — so my immediate environment — “Is it good for my extended environment?” Then if you get a three on all those things, that means you go forward and you move on.

    And I always get this question, by the way, from my clients. “I know it’s good for me, but I know it’s not going to be good for my husband,” or, “my wife,” or, “It’s not going to be good for my kids.”

    And what I share there is, let’s look at this. Really.

    For example, a perfect example, I had somebody who is now learning to say no to things. She’s learning to say no. It’s really hard to do, by the way, if we don’t want to disappoint people. We just want to please people. So saying no… I said, what does that no really mean?

    And she said, “Well, no means that I’m not going to be making lunches for my kids anymore because they are of age where they can make their own lunch, and I’m no longer going to be doing their laundry. And the next time my daughter comes into my bedroom unannounced and just goes and takes my clothes and assumes that that’s okay, well, now there’s going to be boundaries around that.”

    Now she can actually use her own clothes, and if she’s out of clothes, that doesn’t mean that she can go to mom’s closet and get her clothes. Now she’s going to have to wash her clothes and have them ready for herself, for her day at school.

    I said, “Okay, so number one, is this good for you?”

    And she said, “Yes, it’s really good for me because I’m going to feel so much better about this, and I’m not going to be so angry and frustrated in the mornings when I’m looking for something to wear to work and realize that it’s not in my closet.”

    And said, “Okay, good. And is this good for your daughter? Is this good for the people directly involved? Think of the household. You have a daughter. You have a son. You have a husband. Is it good for your daughter? Is it good for your husband? Is it good for your son?”

    She was like, “Well, it’s not good for my daughter, and it’s not going to be good for anybody else because they’re also going to be mad.”

    I said, “Okay, so let’s go big picture. Is this really good for daughter. Thank about it. What is it telling her and teaching her?”

    And we arrived at the conclusion that this was teaching her daughter to honor boundaries. And is that not good for her?

    And she said, “Yeah, honoring boundaries. That’s a good thing.”


    “And in honoring boundaries, what does that do to the household, in your home — your husband, your son, your daughter?”

    “Well, I mean, I’ll feel better. And then my son will learn to honor more boundaries, and there’s going to be more respect in the household. And then my husband and I will have better conversations, and we won’t have to argue about the kids anymore so much. And then my daughter and I can actually have things to talk about besides her just taking my clothes and me being angry about it. And now we can have opportunities for us to really come together and do more fun things.”

    So that’s what we arrived at.

    And at the end of that conversation, we arrived at a reward system for her kids for doing the things that she expected them to do that were going to be good for her and for them and the household altogether.

    I said, “Okay, great. Let’s say you have the boundaries, and they’re set. And now you’re feeling better. How is that going to affect your client work, as you go out there and you have coaching clients? How is that going to affect your coaching-client work?”

    And she said, “Well, I won’t be thinking about this stuff while I’m in there with my clients. I’ll actually come into my office and feel really good and just be present and leave my stuff out of the coaching space.”

    I said, “Well, was it in the coaching space before?”

    She said sometimes it would. “It would be in there with me.”

    So great. Done.

    So then that was a really good example of “Is it good for me? Is it good for the immediate environment? Is it good for the extended environment?” And absolutely, yes, it was.

    And then we said, okay, so then you’re doing that. You’re feeling good. Can you see where just a simple exchange at the grocery store is going to be a little bit different for you?

    She said, “Yes, okay.”

    Can you see where that could then… Hasn’t it happened where just someone who is providing service, and they’re almost invisible in the background, and just a nice hello or a greeting or a “thank you” can literally make somebody’s day? And doesn’t that then allow them to go home and do the same for others?

    I’m not saying that it’s going to be that one exchange that’s going to change everything for them, but it’s going to add a little joy, a little feel good to their day, which can then make the next exchange that they have with another customer or client or their family even better, and then it trickles out to the community and planet.

    And that’s how the ecology check works.

    This is so powerful. I know it’s so simple, and I’ve talked about NLP and doing the work with NLP so much, that it’s all about simplicity. And I love it because it’s very processed-based. These are tools and techniques. It’s not about having to solve anything and even understand yourself at a very deep level.

    It’s simply about you just trusting the process and just testing it out.

    Number one questions — is this good for me?

    If you get 100% congruent yes, then that means you can ask the next question.

    If you get a no or “I don’t know,” then you stop.

    And then, “Is this decision good for my immediate environment, those directly involved?” You get a yes, you get a pass to go to the next level, and that is…

    “Is this good for my extended environment? — my clients, my extended family, the people that I engage with on a consistent basis, is this good for them as a result of me saying yes to the first two questions?”

    By then, you know that the decision is going to be good for community, and it’s going to be good for the planet. And then you’re good. And then you’re living in congruency, and then you begin to create the neurology for congruency.

    I tell my clients all the time, I usually only do the things that feel really good to me. If I feels good, I do it. If it doesn’t, I usually don’t.

    I can’t remember a time when I did something that I didn’t really want to do. I usually want to do the things I want to do, and it feels good to do it.

    Think about what it means to say yes to you first. That’s a huge message to the unconscious mind. If we know that your unconscious mind is creating your experience based on the direction that it’s taking from the conscious mind, because that’s it’s job, the unconscious mind is very advanced and complex but kind of young in age in terms of its thinking. So it’s very simple, very much about messages that are repeated over and over again. And then you repeat them over and over again, and then you’re creating change at an unconscious level, which is where change happens.

    The process of integrating that change at an unconscious level is simply the process of you changing. So you’re in the process of changing during that time.

    So if you repeat the yes to you over and over again, over and over again, that allows you to be congruent, and that allows you to serve at a higher level. It really does.

    The yes to you first is critical.

    I know. I was raised to think that “yes to me” meant that I was being selfish. Weren’t we all kind of raised that way?

    I’m guessing that the people listening here are going to be a little bit older than 20 and onwards. And we didn’t grow up with parents that told us to say yes to us first in a very congruent and ecological way. Most of us had to fight for our yeses and then create neurology around struggle for saying yes to self first. And now we’re living that struggle.

    So yes to you, it’s neither selfish or selfless. Yes to you is simply about creating neurology that’s going to allow you to have a yes type of life experience that feels good. A life experience where you’re moving forward relatively quickly and with ease. That’s congruency. Congruency is about getting your unconscious mind and your conscious mind to work together to help you achieve your outcomes.

    And outcomes doesn’t have to be “I want to make a million dollars or ten million dollars or a billion dollars.” Or, “I want to have this beach body by summer.” That’s not what I mean by achieving what you want. That could be part of it too though, of course. It’s about feeling good in your moment-to-moment experience, because that creates beautiful neurology for a life experience that generally feels good. And when you’re feeling good, then you have access to more resources. And when you have access to more resources, then you are really stepping into your power and then can decide what you want from this place of feeling good.

    And then you get to give to people from this place of feeling good, which is very different, by the way, than giving people when you don’t have a lot to give, because you’re so far down the totem pole when it comes to priorities. So the ecology check is one way to get us there.

    So many things. Simple things that can make all the difference in the world.

    Is it good for me?

    Is it good for those who are immediately involved? Meaning my home life, family, and those directly involved.

    And is it good for my extended environment, those people that I engage with consistently.

    If you get the yes, then it’s a yes. If you get the no, then it’s a no. And if you get the no, you can look at the decision and say, okay, so this decision is a no. What would make it a yes? What would make it yes for me congruently? And then you look at that and then you can ask yourself, “What’s going to feel good to me?”

    I like this, but I don’t like that. And if it looked like this, it would feel much better to me. And I could honor my value; I could honor my boundaries. I could honor my beliefs. I could honor all those things inside that are telling more to say no to this right now.

    It’s about you checking in with yourself consistently and then operating from there.

    Ecology check. Number one thing to do.

    Again, you don’t have to believe me on this, but just try it for a week. Try it for a day and see what happens.

    Thank you so much for listening. That is all I have for you today. I hope that you found the information useful. I love bringing this content to you. I’m going to ask you, as I do every week, to please rate and subscribe to our podcast. Your feedback is so important. Those reviews on iTunes or Stitcher really help us bring more people to the podcast, which is why I created it to begin with.

    I’m going to ask you to visit the podcast show page at to access the show notes and download all the free content that’s in there. We have some great resources for you that, when you use them, you can begin to make that shift.

    And also, please check out the Mind Revolution Podcast Community. It’s all set up, and we are actively working to make sure that we bring stuff in there to the table that’s going to feel good to you, and it’s going to help you take your life to where you want to be.

    So thank you so much for listening. I wish you much joy, much happiness, much success. Until next time…

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