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Goal-Setting A totally Fresh Approach

Bookmark this article for your next goal-setting session! 

We’re approaching a new year — a new decade! It’s the perfect time to begin making plans and setting goals. I usually start this process in October, three months ahead of the ball drop so that by January, my goals have had some time to integrate into my mind, and on January 1, my engine is already warm, and I’m raring to go. 

Remember, it’s always a great time to begin your goal-planning cycle. If you’re beginning your goal-planning cycle now, or in February, you might be on a different cycle than the calendar year. Especially if you prefer to plan your goals at the beginning of spring or before the school year. The key here is to plan.

Before setting goals, size up the previous year.

Ready to dig in? First, I recommend sizing up the previous year (you can do this process monthly or quarterly, too!) Take some time to answer these questions thoughtfully and write your answers down:

  • How did it go for you? Did it meet your expectations? Did you get out of your comfort zone? Did you play bigger? Did you embrace what you want? Take time to think about these things and write down your answers.
  • What did you learn this year? What worked? What didn’t work? Where can you improve? What resources did you add to your toolbox? What did you learn? What role did you play in both your successes and setbacks?
  • What people made a positive impact on your life? What do they have that you want to develop in yourself? Remember, you can only see the greatness in others after you’ve recognized it in yourself! 

This deserves repeating…

You can only recognize the greatness in others after you’ve recognized it in yourself.

Make a list of those people because you also have that same greatness inside of you. The unconscious mind is going to project out into the environment all of who you are. And when you see something fabulous in somebody, it simply means that you have it within yourself. Maybe you haven’t tapped into yet. But if you see it, it’s because it’s available to you. 

I designed the above exercise to help you become aware of your goodness and power to control your future. What you want and who you want to be is inside of you already! 

After going through this exercise, you’re probably feeling pretty good and like you’re ready to set some goals. 

There are four things you can do to achieve excellence in your life with new goals. 

Of course, there are more, but that’s where we’re focusing today. 

1. Commit to achieving three of your big goals in the next year.
Maybe you have a long list of goals — that’s fantastic. First, focus on just three of the big goals that are really driving you. Keep in mind that goals are more powerful if they’re:

  • Specific
  • Measurable
  • Meaningful to you
  • Achievable
  • Time-based
  • Toward what you want 
  • Personal and specific to you. Your goals shouldn’t depend on anyone else.

2. Who is this person?
The person who will achieve your desired goals is likely different from the person you are today. Who do you need to become to accomplish your goals? You might need to learn some new skills, build new habits, create new patterns, stop some unresourceful practices, or limit exposure to negative people (or even a combination of all these). 

Identify who that person is and make a list. Thinking about the person who achieves these three fabulous goals, what do they do? How do they think? What kind of beliefs do they have? What’s important to them? What’s important to this person about achieving these goals? What’s important to them? And then compare your list to the inventory of things you’re doing now — who you’re hanging out with, what you’re listening to, what you’re watching, and what’s in your awareness today. 

A lot of times, people are walking around wanting change, but they’re not willing to do the work to change. If you’re going to change, you have to do change work.

3. Design your plan.
While you’re becoming the person that will achieve these three big goals, and by tapping into the resources, knowledge, and awareness that future you already has (that’s inside of present-day you) you’re creating your plan. It’s just like tapping into another part of your personality and owning it.

If you can perceive it, it’s inside and it’s there for you to begin to tap into. Your work is to adopt the specific behaviors that will help you reach your goals. This is the essence of your plan.

4. Take action.
There’s no need to wait for a new year to begin making progress on your daydreams. Start as soon as you have a plan. You’re going to learn how to say no to a lot of things. And you’re going to create a lot of discipline and self-control, which does not sound sexy or exciting. And yet it’s in these tiny details and moments that creates change. it’s what gets us there. It’s all of these things together. 

And then you’re going to be on your journey, making progress, and feeling great because you’re congruent. You’re moving along, life is looking good, and you’re high on life and loving every second of it. And then you’re going to run into some obstacles.

Remember, when you encounter obstacles — which you will — trust that the obstacles are signs you’re moving closer to your goal, they’re merely part of the process and the journey of becoming who you were meant to be. Obstacles are a good thing!


Remember, we’re bombarded with images  of the things that we should be consuming — what we need to buy, eat, how we should dress, where we should travel, what cars to drive. It happens so much we can become numb to it. Inside those two million bits of information per second coming into our unconscious minds are images of what success should look, feel, and sound like. Even what it’s supposed to feel like when we get there — wherever “there” is. 

You get to define what your version of success looks like to you. You are the only one who can decide what “making it” means to you when it comes to your goals. This is why I encourage you to get quiet and dig into what you really want your life experience to look like.

Once you try this method of setting goals, you’ll take it on for life! It’s incredibly simple, and it works! Especially once you begin to experience the big shifts and start seeing results. 

If you want to go even deeper into your goal-setting, pop over to episode #44 of The Mind Revolution Podcast: A Shift-Making Goal-Getting Workshop and press play!

If you found this article helpful for setting your goals, please forward it to a friend! And then, check these out:

  1. Moving Through Your Comfort Zone to get to Positive Change
  2. Walking Through Mud: Why Change Is Hard And How To Make It Suck Less
  3. Creating Lasting Change

I'm Brenda Terry. I'm a personal development trainer and master coach who works with go-getters like you who want to achieve big results in your business and personal life.

If you're excited and ready to play bigger in business and kill it in life, I help you identify and change beliefs, patterns, and behaviors that aren't supporting your goals so you can make more money, find more joy, better manage relationships, and communicate more effectively.
I'm here to help you make the powerful, effective shifts you're craving- faster than you ever thought possible.

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