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The Lies We Tell Ourselves and the Truths to Squash Them (Part 1)

I hope you’re doing well and finding little (and big) ways to feel safe, secure, and full of love.

If you’re going through your days and starting to question how you can show up more fully, this message is for you.

In this blog article, I’m going to explore four of the lies we’re prone to believe and a truth for each that we can use to squash them.

Maybe after you read this article, you’ll be compelled to dive just a little further into your truth. Ultimately what I want for you is the same thing that I want for me, the people I love, and my clients — to keep focusing on those things that are really important to us, making strides in that direction, and to pause in the present moment (which is the only place we have power), and to make the most of it right now. 

In no way does that mean we’re ignoring what’s going on outside our front door or on the other side of the world. It means we’re present to the experience and extracting the power within it for ourselves. 

And so I know that sometimes when we talk about doing self-work, there’s a potential belief around being selfish as if that time you’re taking for yourself takes away from others.

The most significant way to empower you to be there for the people who love you is to focus on yourself first and then give from that space.

You know I love some intentional action-taking, and this is what it’s all about. The four lies (and there are more, I forced myself to stop at four) we tell ourselves that are contributing to the stuckness that goes on inside of us all of the time. 

Over the last couple of articles, I’ve been talking about what beautiful things can transpire when the conscious, unconscious, and superconscious minds intersect. 

Most of the time, we’re unaware of the connection we have with the superconscious mind (some might call this the “higher self” or the “soul”). 

Whether you’re consciously aware of it or not, the connection is always there. 

Your superconscious mind is tapped into all of the goodness and energy of the universe. As you strengthen your connection with your superconscious mind, you’ll find it easier to tap into your highest purpose and most fulfillment.

Even now, you may find yourself feeling inspired, desiring to see change, and move in the direction of your big daydreams or a higher purpose — only to find that you feel stuck.

Feeling stuck often comes from the lies we tell ourselves that leave us feeling deflated and disempowered. 

Here are 4 potential lies that may be keeping you stuck, and a truth to try on.

Our work here is to connect to our inner truth, what it means for us and apply it consciously. By doing this, our conscious mind is able to become aware that whatever we’re thinking about is available to each of us.

In essence, if you can think it, it can become your experience.

Also, when I say “truth,” I mean truth from the part of you that is 100% whole, that’s not dealing with negative emotions or limiting beliefs, that doesn’t have to think about paying the bills, or getting more clients on the roster. This is the whole, complete part of you that’s bringing these truths, ideas, and inspiration to you. And, your truth is unique to you, so please make these your own.

Lie #1: “You can’t overcome your past mistakes.”

This lie shows up in the form of guilt and regret. To get past this lie, recognize that we’re all doing the best we can with the resources we have. That includes you too. Reframe those past mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow. Now that you know better, you get to do better.

Truth: You are not your past, and you can learn from the past to make better decisions now and in the future.


Lie #2: “You need to do it all right now.” 

Hurry! Time’s wasting. Realize those goals ASAP! You needed to do it yesterday!
The real power is in the process of our journey, not the product of our goal. Achieving the goal is just the cherry on top. 

Truth: The process of achieving is more powerful than the outcome.


Lie #3: “It needs to be perfect.”

Believing that everything you do needs to be perfect will keep you stuck in a mode of forever planning, yet being afraid to execute on anything less than stellar. Repeat after me, “Good enough is okay.” It’s better to take action and get some momentum than to be stuck, striving to meet some unattainable ideal.

Truth: Progress is real, and perfection is an illusion.


Lie #4: “You’re not capable.”

Oh, dear friend, you are fully capable! You are so capable. If you can conceive it, just by having the idea, you already have everything you need to make it happen. Use modeling as a tool to get you started, and put your own spin on it. Make it yours. 

Truth: If someone has done it before and you’re willing to get the resources to do it, then you can do it too, and you can do it in your unique way.

When we’re feeling stuck, it’s often because of these things right here. It’s one, some, or even all of these working together and contributing to the neurology that takes place — the stuff that happens in the brain that then reflects in our experience.

If you’re feeling stuck today, see if any of these lies are holding you back. Meet them head-on, knowing and trusting the truth.

And then, keep reading with part 2.

If you enjoyed this article, you’ll also enjoy the audio version. Just by listening, you’ll probably tap into deeper thoughts. Press play on episode #61 of The Mind Revolution Podcast: The Lies We Tell Ourselves and the Truths to Squash Them.

You might also enjoy these reads too: 

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I'm Brenda Terry. I'm a personal development trainer and master coach who works with go-getters like you who want to achieve big results in your business and personal life.

If you're excited and ready to play bigger in business and kill it in life, I help you identify and change beliefs, patterns, and behaviors that aren't supporting your goals so you can make more money, find more joy, better manage relationships, and communicate more effectively.
I'm here to help you make the powerful, effective shifts you're craving- faster than you ever thought possible.

Learn how we can work together here.


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